Starting with something new is not easy. For instance when you start your own business. You have to give up the comforts of a stable paycheck to delve into the unknown. A lot of things keep us from making the leap, things like fear and insecurity. And one thing above all the rest: motivation.
Here are a few tips for achieving anything you want in life.
Focus on commitment, not motivation.
Just how committed are you to your goal? How important is it for you, and what are you willing to sacrifice in order to achieve it? If you find yourself fully committed, motivation will follow.
You can start with devoting at least 15 minutes a day to your change. And set realistic goals. Never eliminate but instead replace. Don’t give up but change what you are doing.
Seek knowledge, not results.
If you focus on the excitement of discovery, improving, exploring and experimenting, your motivation will always be fueled. If you focus only on results, your motivation will die the moment you hit problems. So the key is to focus on the journey, not the destination. Keep thinking about what you are learning along the way and what you can improve.
Make the journey fun.
Make it fun! Whatever you do, look at it like it is an awesome game! This is called gamification. The minute you make it serious, there’s a big chance it will start carrying a heavy emotional weight and you will lose perspective and become stuck again. If the process of fulfilling your goal is polluted with negative energy and lack of enjoyment, it can only create more unhappiness, even if the outcome is positive in the short term. The happiness that you feel in the moment of reaching “success” is a temporary state dictated by its conventional definition. After the initial euphoria wears off, you are back in the same old negative place, because you’ve carried that same old negative mindset with you. If you are not enjoying yourself on your journey toward your goal, you’re not doing it right. This strategy will transform your life.
Get rid of stagnating thoughts.
Thoughts influence feelings and feelings determine how you view your work. You have a lot of thoughts in your head, and you always have a choice of which ones to focus on: the ones that will make you emotionally stuck (fears, doubts) or the ones that will move you forward. Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become a reality. Focus on your thoughts and ideas that help you move forward. And delete all your thoughts that are blocking you.
Use your imagination.
Next step after getting rid of negative thoughts is to use your imagination. When things go well, you are full of positive energy, and when you are experiencing difficulties, you need to be even more energetic. So rename your situation. If you keep repeating I hate my work, guess which feelings those words will evoke? It’s a matter of imagination! You can always find something to learn even from the worst boss in the world at the most boring job. Here is a great exercise for you: Just for three days, think and say positive things only. See what happens.
Stop being nice to yourself.
Motivation means action, and action brings results. Sometimes your actions fail to bring the results you want. So you prefer to be nice to yourself and not put yourself in a difficult situation. You wait for the perfect timing, for an opportunity, while you drive yourself into stagnation and sometimes even into depression. Get out there, challenge yourself, do something that you want to do even if you are afraid.
Get rid of distractions.
Meaningless things and distractions will always be in your way, especially those easy, usual things you would rather do instead of focusing on new challenging and meaningful projects. Learn to focus on what is the most important. Write a list of time-wasters and hold yourself accountable to not do them. Carve out blocks of time—whether for work, exercise or people you care about—and turn off your phone and computer. Don’t check out especially distracting websites such as social media or news pages for a set period of time. Limit the number of times per day you check and respond to email, texts and social media. Remove the temptation to constantly having to keep an eye on these distractors. These are people who play the victim, are stuck in unhealthy habits, or generally make you feel drained or bad about yourself. Surround yourself with those who are positive, focused, productive and ambitious. There is a famous saying “You are the average of the people you spend the most time with.”
Don’t rely on others.
You should never expect others to do it for you, not even your partner, friend or boss. They are all busy with their own needs. No one will make you happy or achieve your goals for you.
Know your three steps forward. You do not need more. Fill out your weekly calendar, noting when you will do what and how. When-what-how is important to schedule. Review how each day went by what you learned and revisen what you could improve. Prioritized notes and lists help with focus and multitasking. Eliminate or minimize unproductive to-do items from your daily list to make room for the productive ones. Scheduling your priority work for when you have the most energy gains minutes through more effective work.
You lack motivation not because you are lazy or don’t have a goal. Even the biggest stars, richest businesspeople or the most accomplished athletes get lost sometimes. What makes them motivated is the curiosity about how much better or faster they can get. So above all, be curious, and this will lead you to your goals and success.