Why are some people perfectionists?
And why are some people never satisfied with less than perfect outcomes?
Perfectionists set very high and often unrealistic standards whether in work, social situations, appearance, or relationships, and often measure their self-worth by accomplishment. This can be either adaptive or self-destructive.
On the positive side comes high achievement, satisfaction and self-esteem; on the negative side harsh self-criticism, procrastination, disappointment and depression.
People develop personality traits that allow them to reach certain goals that they developed earlier in their lives as a result of the experiences they have been through.
For example, If a child believed that he is inferior for some reason or another then all of his personality traits would work towards the goal of attaining superiority.
Perfectionism is developed as a result of feelings of inferiority or of being less than others. When a child experiences these feelings he develops perfectionism in order to maintain a sense of superiority over his friends and over his environment.
The other goal that the development of perfectionism helps the child to achieve is to hide his defects from others. After all, if he did everything perfectly then no one will dig behind his wall of perfectionism to unfold his well hidden defects.
Because we don’t live in a prefect world, people who developed perfectionism, face never ending disappointments that ruin their good mood and positive life.
If you have developed perfectionism, realize that there is a very simple cure: in order to get rid of perfectionism, you must develop self confidence, deal with your feelings of inferiority and fix your beliefs about life by understanding that perfection is not always necessary. Sounds easy, but consider it a perfect challenge to work on.